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- General DDlg/CGl Questions
- Questions About Littles
- Questions About Caregivers
- Questions About Age Play
General DDlg/CGl Questions
- What is DD/lg? DD/lg, or Daddy Dom/ little girl is one of the many types of power exchanges that can occur within a BSDM relationship. Daddy Doms usually aren't as strict as other types of Dominants, and more loving and gentle to their Submissive or little girl.
- What is CG/L? CG is short for Caregiver, which is another term for someone who takes care of a Little. A lot of Littles that have both a Mommy Dominant and a Daddy Dominant just refer to them as Caregivers because it is an umbrella term.
- Isn't DD/lg and CG/l a type of incest fantasy? Absolutely not. The terms "Mommy" and "Daddy" are simply terms of affection that Littles use for their Caregivers. It has nothing to do with actual parents or wishing you could have intimate relations with them.
DD/lg and CG/l relationships are relationships between two consenting ADULTS that are NOT of the same gene pool. - How does the sexual part of a DD/lg CG/l relationship work? This is a fairly complicated question simply because every relationship is different. Some Caregivers and Littles are completely comfortable with being sexual When the Little is acting childish, and others are completely non-sexual in their CG/l relationship. This is the case with my Daddy and me, we use DD/lg as a way to help me deal with my Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Depression, and only have sex or intimate relations when we are "adulting". There really is no right or wrong answer to this question, it's all about what feels right to you and your partner.
Questions About Littles
- Why do people become Littles? Again, there really is no right answer to this question. For me personally, it helps me deal with my mental illnesses and relax when I'm stressed out. For others, it is a way to deal with some traumatizing issues from their actual childhood. Some people just do it because it simply makes them happy and it is in their natural personality to be Little.
- Do you have to be a certain age to be a little? Unfortunately, there are many underage teenagers out there that think being a Little is for them and I'm here to tell them it's not. Like any BSDM relationship, sexual or not, CG/l should be only between two consenting adults, and if you are single and want to be a Little, you should be over the age of 18.
- What is Little Space? Little Space is when a Little acts childish and engages in childlike activities according to what age their Little self is. Little Space is different for every Little. For some, it is a specific time of the day, others try to be in Little Space 24/7. For me personally, because I do have actual children to parent, I have to set specific times aside, usually in the evenings to slip into Little Space. During this time I usually talk and act like a toddler, play with my stuffies, suck on a pacifier, color in my age appropriate coloring books (Lil' Meremere is between the ages of 2-4), watch only age-appropriate tv shows and movies, and of course can only do things someone in my Littles age range can do, everything else I must ask Daddy's help with.
Questions About Caregivers
- Do Caregivers have to be older than you in real life? Absolutely not! Caregivers can be any age older or younger than you as long as you are both over the age of 18. My Daddy is 11 months younger than me in real life.
- What kinds of responsibilities come with being a Caregiver? Over all, a Caregivers main job is to make their Little feel loved, safe, and cared for. How you make these things happen is different in every CG/l relationship. For example, my Daddy has a set of rules for Lil' Meremere that I must follow in little space or I will be punished. Also, we have a reward system in place for when I am good. These make me feel loved and cared for even when Daddy isn't around because I know what is expected of me.
Questions About Age Play
- What is Age Play? Age play is a type of role-playing in which one or more partners acts as though they are a different age than they really are. Usually props and/or clothing like onesies, cute dresses, overalls, diapers, sippy cups, pacifiers, stuffies, etc. are used during age play. As I have stated before, this fetish can be sexual or non-sexual, but it has NOTHING TO DO WITH INCEST OR PEDOPHILIA.
- Are there different types of age play? Age play is most commonly broken down into these catergories:
- Adult Baby,Babygirl/boy- Infant to toddler age.
- Little- Aproximately ages 4-10. You will also hear this term used as an umbrella term for both age players and submissives at times, as well as an umbrella term for all little submissives...I know it's confusing! >__<
- Middle- Aproximately ages 10-teenage years.
- Is there a difference between age players and little submissives? Like I stated above, here is where it all starts to get confusing. A lot of age players refer to themselves as littles, baby girl/boy, etc. just like submissives do. However they are still two separate kinks, not all age players are interested in the Dom/sub dynamic, just like not all little submissives are interested in age playing.
There are titles and groups for a reason:- It makes it easier to find like-minded people.
- You can't be in a DD/lg relationship if there is no power exchange in your relationship. Also, It's quite alright to be an age player and not have an interest in a power exchange relationship. Not using the titles properly puts people at risk of being abused or being labeled as abusive.
